If you're family is screwy or non-existent, at least you have your family(ies) by choice. I enjoyed spending Yule here with Draconia, Mael and the kids and their family. More satisfying than the bs I went through as a kid and most of what I've experienced since. Also meant I got to play with the newest grandbebe even more, heh heh.
It can be screwed up, but remember the meaning of the season, not even the more modern ones, but the old ones. Come together, appreciate what you have, where you are and celebrate you still being alive for the return of the light. People get too caught up in drama and feuds and materialism during this time of year. I've had more fun on very poor holidays spent with good, pagan friends than at my richest when spending it with rich snobs or anything in between.
Je regrette, I'll get off the sick person soap box after I say this. Blow off the bs and enjoy these times with those who are pleasant to spend it with. There is little else of a similar value and at times, it really does help remind you of what real wealth is and where it is to be found.
Wassail y'all and happy new year