Oh man, my in-laws want us to move into their neighborhood - better yet, the house next to them... My stepmother in law is very controling!
My husband is his dad's only child(and his dad was not very involved in his upbringing), my father in law and his second wife couldn't have more children. Naturally they see my children as a substitude for their own. I'm willing to let them be involved and (though i sometimes roll my eyes) listen to their advice - wondering what ppl with no kids could tell me (I have three) I know they mean well and I respect them as elders, but in the end, I do what I want to do anyway and raise my children my way.
I like the fact that they want to be involved, take all three of them for a weekend, buy stuff for them (great help, since we're broke all the time) and take them on vacation. I especially appreciate it, because my two olders daughters are "step grandchildren" to them, but they never treated them any different then they would "real" grandkids.
I am very lucky with my inlaws and most of the time their input doesn't bother me, but when I disagree, I'll do it my way.
My parents and my husbands mother live far away, so they don't meddle in out affairs!