The funny thing is, I hadn't been able to reply to this post after reading it, as I had to run. But I'm finally getting to it.
I am wiccan, and I never really thought about everything the rede said and meant. I'm still learning, reading, learning, reading.....But anyway, when I read what Luc said about the perfect love perfect trust, I completely agreed. I have always been the trusting person, maybe even too trusting, but I'll not change that because I get bitten. And I've always been loving and caring. And while I'd not intend to harm anyone, it is inevitable. For me, the word harm in the rede has been meant more like malicious intent. But also a warning to look at your actions before making them. Think of the consequences.
Nonetheless, when I was talking to someone the other night, he said that you cannot believe in perfect love and perfect trust, because we are human, and are not perfect. I don't agree with him. You can believe in it all you want, and you can try your best to live a life like that. Maybe I'm rambling here, but it all made me think.
And then just last night, a person who I thought was a friend turned on me. Once again bitten by being so caring. Using me for many things apparently. He is no longer a friend, because friends do not do that. But, I'll not go after him. If friends do, I want no knowledge of it, because I know that I cannot force them to do anything. My meaning here is that even though I've been burned so many times, my beliefs have not changed. I will always trust people, I will always love people. A select few people that know about some very personal things already know this.
This in correlation has everything to do with fidelity for me. I'll never go after another man if I have told the one I'm with that I'm only with him. I will trust him to do the same, and never worry that he will do otherwise unless he gives me reason to believe so. And while I'll never judge anyone for having anything other than what I want, it just won't work for me. And I am glad that I'm like that. It means that I can truly be trusted and in relation loved.
I hope that this gives you an idea of how I feel, vetle, and this is in no way meant to be a handout, this is true. But we learn from our mistakes, other people's mistakes, and just from experiences in general. And you would not have asked this question if you never meant to learn.
The difference between cats and dogs is that dogs want to smell everyone's rear and cats want every one to smell THEIR rear - unknown