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by **morgana** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 7:09 pm

Ok, I decided to post this here, because it's not blessings I need, it's protection. Yesterday I was walking in the mall while on my break, and wandered all the way to the opposite end of the mall. My store is at the other end of the mall, so when it was time, I walked back. After I had been back at work for just a few minutes, this guy walks in. He approaches me and asks me if my hair is naturally the color red that it is. I look up at him and immediately get the creeps. I answer him anyway, saying "no, it's a dye job." Then I walk behind the counter and he walks over and says "So you work here?" I say yes, and then he proceeds to ask if we sell guy's jewelry. I say yes and point him in the direction of it. He buys a bracelet, then asks me my name. I give him my first name (against my better judgement), and then he asks my age. I tell him I'm 21, and then he tells me he's 29. The problem with this (besides the fact that the guy gives me the creeps), is that even though I'm 21, I look 16. So anytime a guy who is significantly older than me (more than 5 years) hits on me, it sets off an alarm in my head. Anyway, before he left, he told me that he thought I was cute. I politely said thank you and tried to look like I was busy.

Then, maybe 10 minutes later I was in the backroom when my coworker walks in to tell me that "my guy" just walked by again, looking in the window for me. She also informed me that he works in the mall at one of the kiosks. Later after my shift was over, I had to go back to the other end of the mall to pick up some Xmas gifts. I managed to avoid him going down there, but coming back the other way, he managed to spot me and call my name and wave. I looked over, but kept walking. Anyway, if anyone could send me some "protective" energy, it'd be most appreciated.

I know that if he starts really harrassing me that I need to call the cops and stuff, but I'd like to not even have to go that far. Not to mention, the neighborhood that this mall is in is pretty nasty, so something tells me they wouldn't really care about my "supposed stalker." The next time he comes to "visit" I'm gonna get straight to the point and tell him that I'm not interested in him in any way, and to please keep his distance from me. It's just that those few short times I encountered him, he gave me such a case of the creeps that I just did whatever I could to get away as fast as I could. My skin felt like it was gonna crawl right off my body! I did let a close friend of mine know who happens to be a pretty scary looking guy, and he said if I ever need him to do bodyguard duty, he would. If this guy doesn't take my not so subtle hints I may just take him up on it.

Understand, I don't normally freak out too easily, but if you felt the vibe he was giving off, you might be freaked out too...

by **FyreGarnet** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 11:33 pm

I'll be sending you energy. I currently have been having slightly similar issues with a guy. Lately, he's backed off, so just be super busy like I am. It will help.

FyreGarnet

by **Stormy** » Fri Dec 10, 2004 6:58 am

Always go with your gut instinct - when you ignore it or trivialize it that is when disaster strikes. If this guy gives you such a bad feeling there is a GOOD REASON why. Be careful, keep your eyes peeled and let as many people around you know about the situation as you can, especially if you telling them will get back to him - he won't want to try anything with someone who has 20 people who can testify that he was stalking that person.

I'll definitely send some "good vibes" energy your way.

Stormy

by **morgana** » Sat Dec 11, 2004 5:30 am

Thanks guys. I got a call from work last night, they said he had walked by the store like 4 times staring in the window looking for me. I told them that if he actually comes in, they need to ask him to leave and let him know that they will call mall security if he persists. But so far it looks like he'll only come in when I'm there. Goody. If he comes in tonight while I'm working I'm gonna set him straight and let him know that I have absolutely NO interest in him and that he needs to leave me alone.

by **scoia** » Mon Dec 13, 2004 6:21 pm

totally, i'll keep you in my andraste prayers...

Stormy's right, if someone creeps you out that much, there's always going to be a reason..It may help not to get too angry at him, though, coz it may egg him on (I know, it's gross), or upset him, in terms of 'angry stalker' mode...

Man, why the h**l do people think that this sort of behaviour is at ALL appropriate? I mean, what does he think he's going to gain by being extra creepy..

I really don't get it.

by **morgana** » Tue Dec 14, 2004 2:23 pm

Well he came into my store while I was working on Saturday, and all I could do was walk quickly to the backroom and wait till he left. When I came back out my manager told me that I needed to actually tell him not to come in anymore before she could call mall security. So when I went on break, I walked down to the kiosk where he works and pulled him aside. I told him that I know he thinks I'm cute, but that he's too old for me and I have a boyfriend besides that, so he needs to quit coming to "visit" in my store. He said ok, and that was the end of it. I saw him walk by last night, but he didn't look in, and he probably was walking by because my store happens to be right by the food court. I'm still on my guard though, cuz it just seems like I got rid of him too easily.

by **melina** » Tue Dec 14, 2004 2:33 pm

I hope everything works out. I'll send positive energy your way. Stormy's so right: 1st instincts with guys are extremely important. If he gives you the creeps, there could be something seriously wrong with the guy. From now on, if something like that happens tell him from the very start that you aren't interested.

by **Kiril** » Tue Dec 14, 2004 7:03 pm

"I told him that I know he thinks I'm cute, but that he's too old for me and I have a boyfriend besides that, so he needs to quit coming to "visit" in my store. He said ok, and that was the end of it."

Umm..yep, that's pretty much any guy who tries to hit on a girl and gets rejected, not sure why would guys like that be concidered stalking and dangerous, but as far as i can tell, if he didn't persist after you turned him down, he's one of these guys who shrug and decide oh well gonna go look for another girl. And there's no way a guy can confuse a 21 with a 16 year old, it's impossible, however anything higher than 21 and it jams the radar, i though my girlfriend was 21 when she turned out to be 4 years older than me.

by **morgana** » Wed Dec 15, 2004 7:10 pm

I considered him a stalker because he FOLLOWED me all the way from one end of the mall to the other without me knowing it. It's not like he walked up next to me and began a conversation while I was walking, he followed me at a distance. That's what initially disturbed me, aside from the creepy vibe he gave off. And then how he kept repeatedly walking by my store and staring in, very creepy. Also, believe it or not, it is VERY easy to mistake a 16 year old for a 21 year old and vice versa. Fact is, I DO look very young for my age. I've been told as much by a good many people. Has to do with not only my facial features, but the fact that I never wear makeup, and am only 5'4. Anyway, the point is, he gave me the creeps, and it wasn't just me either. He sufficiently freaked out my coworkers with his walking by the store and staring in the window when I wasn't there.

by **davisherm** » Thu Dec 16, 2004 11:11 am

Morgana,

Good call on letting him know that you're not interested and that you don't want him in your store. That sets the groundwork. It's possible that he's just some guy who was looking to pick up a cute girl who works in the same building he does.

But in the event that he's a dangerous person, you might need to take some extra precautionary measures. I'll be sending you some energy, but something you might want to try is Aural Control.

Basically if he shows up, you can do one of two things:

1. Pull all your energy into yourself so that you're practically invisible. People just don't notice you when you're not broadcasting.

or 2. Flare up. Feed your dislike for him into your aura and push it out as much as you can. People pick up on this. They might not realize why, but they can tell when they're not wanted.

I hope that it's simply that he's about to be thirty and wants to date a young, pretty woman to make himself feel younger and so he's completely harmless but annoying. But trust your instincts. That's why they're there.

Blessed Be.

by **FyreGarnet** » Thu Dec 16, 2004 2:27 pm

Yeah, what he said....

And don't let anyone give him your number. My mom decided to do that with this guy that showed up at our doorstep asking for me. She had to be nice to him. She kinda knows him cuz we went to high school together. So now he keeps calling. But luckily, most of the time, I'm not home, so they have to answer the phone. Ha, that'll teach her.

FyreGarnet

by **Kiril** » Thu Dec 16, 2004 5:57 pm

Yeah, or just let him hang around and suck him dry of his energies, he'll realise he doesn't feel good around you and never bug you again.

by **morgana** » Thu Dec 16, 2004 8:56 pm

Thanks for the ideas guys. As for letting him hang around and sucking his energy, I can't bear to be near him for even 5 min. so that wouldn't really work. Interesting idea though. :badgrin:

by **davisherm** » Mon Dec 20, 2004 5:14 pm

Kiril wrote:Yeah, or just let him hang around and suck him dry of his energies, he'll realise he doesn't feel good around you and never bug you again.

Now Kiril, we can't all be psychic vampires. :lol:

Besides, with the feelings she's getting just by being around him, I'd hate to think of the energy she'd be bringing into herself.

Another thing that just came to mind. Maybe try warding your store. Create the ward specifically for this guy. He might get the hint when he tries to walk through the door and hits feedback. :badgrin:

by **morgana** » Mon Dec 20, 2004 8:57 pm

Well I will definitely try that if I see him walk by again, but so far I haven't seen hide nor hair of him lately. Probably too busy with all the Xmas shoppers to take stalking breaks, lol. :lol:

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