Coming of Age Ritual

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Coming of Age Ritual

Post by Baylee » Thu Jul 28, 2005 3:19 pm

Hey,
I'm writing a coming of age ritual for myself...and I don't really know where to start. I already turned 13, but really the only idea I have is to have a potluck thing...I've never done any rituals with other people. My Mom's working on it with me...but any ideas would be great.
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Post by Crazy Healer Lady » Thu Jul 28, 2005 5:29 pm

Well there is the ritual of letting menstrual blood drip on some moss and burying it near a creek, but I think no one finds that appealing, according to another thread ;);) :smt077

But how about making an offering of some kind to Mother Earth, or to your personal Deities? A strand of hair, a personal loved possession that does not litter or pollute, or even just cleaning up trash for a day.

I wish I had been more into this when I was 13 :-( lol

Is this something you want to involve family/friends in? or something by yourself?

You could invite friends or family to share with you what they hope for in your coming of age, blessings, etc during a potluck...

I'm a little rusty on rituals as I am not a ritual-type person, but thought you may be able to use these suggestions

hope all goes well and congrats!
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Post by Baylee » Thu Jul 28, 2005 5:39 pm

Thanks CHL!
I know that I'm gonna have a potluck with my family and closest friends invited...the idea of giving up something to the earth is really good...
Thanks for the ideas!
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Post by Raven » Thu Jul 28, 2005 6:09 pm

there is a reason I avoid the Menstrual Rituals thread....


Men simply do not need to hear such things.. <(xx)>
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Post by Baylee » Thu Jul 28, 2005 6:14 pm

:lol: I'm with you there...
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Post by 2Crunchy » Sat Jul 30, 2005 10:48 am

We had a weaning ritual/party for my daughter when she weaned. One very powerful thing that we did (and this would translate well for any life-stage ritual) was line up the babies and toddlers still nursing, and then all the older children and have her walk from the babies and join the other group. Then everyone hugged her and congratulated her. It was a way of symbolically leaving babyhood and being accepted into the next circle. You could have all of the children line up in a group and then walk from them to all of the adults. Have them congratulate you and welcome you to adulthood. We plan to do something like this to celebrate my daughter's menarche.
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Post by Crazy Healer Lady » Sat Jul 30, 2005 11:40 am

That's awesome that you would do that for your daughter. I kind of my parents had made me feel better about going through that stage in my life. On one hand, there is my dad, who treated it like I had scraped my knee O_O and my mom's a nurse, so there was the bitterness and matter-of-fact explanation of it. I'm sure I would have a lot less of my problems if I had only been made to feel good about what was happening, not like it was the burden of women everywhere.

And to Raven: A coming of age thread. What do you expect just may come up :lol: Especially when the one coming of age is thirteen
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Post by Raven » Sun Jul 31, 2005 6:17 am

Crazy Healer Lady wrote: And to Raven: A coming of age thread. What do you expect just may come up :lol: Especially when the one coming of age is thirteen
Well.... shut up

it took me by suprise

lol but I suppose I did ask for it =P
I need to remember that this board is like 80% women...
and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that !
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Post by Crazy Healer Lady » Sun Jul 31, 2005 9:43 am

Raven wrote:
Well.... shut up

it took me by suprise

lol but I suppose I did ask for it =P
I need to remember that this board is like 80% women...
I'm not used to being around guys who see moontime as taboo anymore ;)
And I will say nothing more for fear of going on a long, undeserved fundie-feminist rant :P

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Post by Raven » Sun Jul 31, 2005 2:43 pm

I don't see it as a taboo at all, its natural, its life. I just would rather not hear about some of the... finer? details...

Being hemophobic doesn't help either....
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Post by Baylee » Mon Aug 01, 2005 3:02 pm

Thank you all so much for the ideas!
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Post by Baylee » Thu Aug 04, 2005 3:18 pm

Hey, I just wanted to say that I'm having the ritual on Saturday...and actually later tonight my Aunt and my Mom are going to go over the ritual with me...My Aunt also helped create my Mom and Step-Dad's wedding ceremony, which was very...un-mainstream. My Aunt acted as the Priestess so afterward my Mom and Step-Dad had to fill all this paperwork to make it official...
Anyway, I'll post the basics of the ritual hopefully tomorrow, and then the rest sometime after Saturday...
Thanks again for all the ideas!
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Post by Crazy Healer Lady » Thu Aug 04, 2005 6:26 pm

Congrats and I hope it goes well ^__^
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Post by 2Crunchy » Fri Aug 05, 2005 5:12 am

Yay! I hope everything goes well.

I wish more young people got to experience these rites of passage. I think a lot of the frustration and rebellion that goes on in adolesence is because there is no clear-cut passage into adulthood. Do they become adults when they turn 16 and get their license? 18 when they get to vote? or 21 when they can legally drink alcohol? Not to mention we expect them to be children long after their bodies are telling them they are adults.

Sorry for the ramble. I'm just very excited for you.
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Post by Kystar » Fri Aug 05, 2005 5:40 am

2Crunchy wrote: Do they become adults when they turn 16 and get their license? 18 when they get to vote? or 21 when they can legally drink alcohol?
My dad once told me that these three milestones mark the maturity of the three main parts of a person.

16: You have reached a physical adulthood, in that your reflexes and motor control is adult enough to drive, and your mind is working on it.

18: You have reached mental adulthood because now you have the responsibility to chose our leaders.

21: You have reached spiritual adulthood because now you must decide what is best for your body and mind according to your beliefs (to get sloshed or not to get sloshed, ah the question!)
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